The real you may not be sexy, chatty or coordinated..specially at 8 am….and may actually scare him away. My friend Victor asked for advice on the boy he was chasing. I told him to tell him the truth. I told him to tell the guy that he likes him. He can risk being rejected but at least he will know the truth and be free…to either be with the guy or to move on… Sometimes the truth can be painful. And sometimes we do not want to admit to ourselves: I am lonely, I am single or I am in a relationship. I value truth and honesty. I think it is a key to any long lasting relationship or friendship. Maybe it does leave me vulnerable and at risk….maybe I am putting all of my cards on the table. But there is no better feeling than being free.

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In many ways they are total opposites, but somehow they make it work. L is a typical emotionally driven Latino drama queen. Tom is the more calm and analytical American mid westerner. He calms L down, and L spices their relationship. Watching them in action can be like watching fireworks. They have overcome a lot to be together and I am confident that they will be together for another seven years. And it happened around the time when Tom turned 30. He went to Brazil having the feeling that someone and something was waiting for him. I have the same feeling now…perhaps about Amsterdam?

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Last night the Single Guy and the Dating Guy went out for a belated first non-date. I had met the Dating Guy through the net and we had seen a movie a few weeks ago. I was not sure how I felt about the DG. Having more or less put him into the friends box, I saw him again last week as I attempted to match him up with some of my friends. I had a long conversation with him...he was shy, but he was funny, honest and sweet. Maybe I had judged DG too quickly. He started writing his own blog. This gave me even more information on DG…he had depth and interesting stories. He also seemed to have a past...but who doesn't. I wondered, could there still be guys in Sydney without baggage and who are honest and loyal? Hmmm

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The real you may not be sexy, chatty or coordinated..specially at 8 am….and may actually scare him away. My friend Victor asked for advice on the boy he was chasing. I told him to tell him the truth. I told him to tell the guy that he likes him. He can risk being rejected but at least he will know the truth and be free…to either be with the guy or to move on… Sometimes the truth can be painful. And sometimes we do not want to admit to ourselves: I am lonely, I am single or I am in a relationship. I value truth and honesty. I think it is a key to any long lasting relationship or friendship. Maybe it does leave me vulnerable and at risk….maybe I am putting all of my cards on the table. But there is no better feeling than being free.

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They decided to move to Australia to be together. Tom came first and completed an IT degree for migration purposes. L then applied as his de facto but had to study first for a full year. Studying IT for a full year…now, that’s true love. They have had their ups and downs. They are currently seeing a counsellor. They fight and bicker like a married couple. But when Tom tells the story of how they met, you can see a twinkle in his eye. You can see that they are meant for each other. You can see there is true love. It is not perfect….but they have never considered breaking up or opening up their relationship.

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